Why I like chat rooms

Have you ever stopped and noticed how people view others for the first time. If you walk by someone and you are good looking (male or female) you attract a longer stare than normal, if you are different in some way you also attract that longer stare, but if you are average or not good looking, overweight, or not appealing to that person you will notice the head will usually go down and the stare will be really short. Unfortunately our society basis it’s first impression on looks and not the qualities the person has inside.

Now I am sure you are thinking, how can we base first impressions on anything but looks when walking by someone. I say try it sometimes. Look directly at someone, smile, nod, say hello, talk on the elevator do not look at the appearance; try to look through the appearance. As I said in my profile I think my favourite saying is "You Can't Fix Stupid" and that is so true. As we get older our body parts have a tendency to change positions and looks head south for retirement, but the mind only gets better. And this is why I like chat rooms.

When you enter a chat room and start talking to people you have no idea of who they are, what they do, what they look like; are they short, tall, fat, skinny, blonde, redhead, voluptuous, well-endowed, bald, bearded, handicapped. Same on your side, people do not have a pre-conceived idea of you, so to be yourself and not have to live up to someone else’s expectations is a lot easier for you. You do not have to impress. If you do not like the people you can leave the room and never go back and nothing is lost. If you do like them you stay and get to know them. And the neat thing about this – it is not based on looks – you actually took some time to get to know the person and many times some great friendships come out of this (even though mostly just online) based on the person’s personality not on their looks.

Now I am definitely not suggesting your whole world becomes chat rooms, you still need to develop strong social skills because our world is not very user friendly when it comes to people but they do give us a little alternative to the reality we live in 24 hours a day.

Have a wonderful day